Going Nuts

[Rad2474]

OK i got made redundant a month ago and all this sitting around is driving me mad. Anyone in my area needing a free labourer then i'll up for giving them a hand,no money expected just getting me out the house. I mean for crying out loud wife even thinks i should be doing housework cos i'm off and she's at work.

[united]

I know the feeling mate, I hate it when I have no work on.

I only have small jobs in small rooms (tight squeeze) at the moment or you could have came and gave me a hand

Are you going to start your tiling full time or are you looking for employment again?

[david campbell]

hope something comes good for you soon mate

and don't be bullied into housework,gently remind the mrs that she will have nothing to do in the eveing if you do it during the day..........

[GirlRacerRed]

when I got made redundant Rad, I stopped doing any form of housework. I merely concentrated my efforts on finding a new job. I spent 8 hours a day scouring in the internet, ringing agencies, contacting companies I wanted to work for. It's the most demoralising thing I've ever been through. I was unemployed for 2 months before finding a temporary contract. And then I had to work another 2 months before securing a permanent job.

My main profession is human resource management rather than tiling though.

As Mark says, will you be sticking with tiling or hoping to find a job doing something else but with tiling on the side?

[dick turpin]

hope you get some work soon.

Are you sayin that 'house work' is strictly for ladys only....carefull.

[david campbell]

hope you get some work soon.

Are you sayin that 'house work' is strictly for ladys only....carefull.

yes and men with no back bone................

[GirlRacerRed]

yes and men with no back bone................

is that what your missus says about you? or does she refer to you as "under the thumb"

[pjc]

got the same problem been helping a mate but with two of us the works been going to quick and he is all worked up er indoors has been trying to get me to work in the garden get me out of here please

[user123]

OK i got made redundant a month ago and all this sitting around is driving me mad. Anyone in my area needing a free labourer then i'll up for giving them a hand,no money expected just getting me out the house. I mean for crying out loud wife even thinks i should be doing housework cos i'm off and she's at work.

Well then get off your butt and make the house nice, what's wrong with you?? You'd reather please someone else with free labour but not your wife and your own home?? Good grief...

[pjc]

Well then get off your butt and make the house nice, what's wrong with you?? You'd reather please someone else with free labour but not your wife and your own home?? Good grief...

Mossa mine dont work and i still help with the housework they save all the little things till i come home at the weekend

[albyshellshear]

I dont mind doing the dishes for the wife,after all she helps me with the rest of the housework, get with the times if you can't earn a crust you have to bite the bullet and get the pinny on come on man up do your share its only fair

[Dave]

Hi paul mate..

Just pm'd you..

[dick turpin]

I know it is realy tough when your at home and there is no work coming in, it took me a year to build up my buisness with a lot of the usual stresses, marketing,no response to ads,running my own business for the first time,finding money for mortgage, kid, and had a baby in the middle just to make it a bit more stressfull, then had an injury which has put me out for a real long time, i now breed chikens, have a very good alotment, do the odd bit of tiling(recomendations) look after 2 kids and i even do the house work, hope that doesnt make me under the thumb,
as previous coment you are preperd to work for nowt???? but not in your own home, maybe if you did a bit of 'House work' and dare i say it cook your lady a meal for when she comes home (beans on toast, its the thought that counts) then she may get of your case and give you some breathin space.

Also have a structure to your day ie plan your day so you know what you are doing,

may your legs forever reach the ground

[doug boardley]

yes and men with no back bone................

thanks, I'm now classed as an invertebrate

[Rad2474]

I know the feeling mate, I hate it when I have no work on.

I only have small jobs in small rooms (tight squeeze) at the moment or you could have came and gave me a hand

Are you going to start your tiling full time or are you looking for employment again?

I'm looking for a job and to keep the tiling part-time like i was doing.

[Rad2474]

Well then get off your butt and make the house nice, what's wrong with you?? You'd reather please someone else with free labour but not your wife and your own home?? Good grief...

I've actually been doing loads around the house and i do about 90% of the cooking but i really need to be out there working,just the sort of person i am.

[GirlRacerRed]

I'm looking for a job and to keep the tiling part-time like i was doing.

well in that case, to get a full time job, you need to be putting in full time hours looking for one. i used to get up at 7.30, shower, get dressed, breakfast, boot the laptop up and be ready at my "desk" for 9am. the job centre made me create a log of all my job hunting activities (so I could prove that I wasn't sitting around doing nowt). this definitely helped. it was nice to see job applications turning into interviews.

do you have an up to date CV?
have you been for any interview training?
have you been watching The Fairy Jobmother on C4? Hayley Taylor is straight talking and has some good tips.
do you need help with anything? I'm a HR manager and will gladly assist with creating CV's, covering letters, interview techniques etc.

and if you can un/load the dishwasher/washing machine once a day, or cook a meal (casserole with jacket potatoe - 1 pot, straight in the oven), then she'll think you're wonderful

[doug boardley]

My Mrs even helps me with the hoovering, she picks her feet up without me even having to ask her now

[Rad2474]

well in that case, to get a full time job, you need to be putting in full time hours looking for one. i used to get up at 7.30, shower, get dressed, breakfast, boot the laptop up and be ready at my "desk" for 9am. the job centre made me create a log of all my job hunting activities (so I could prove that I wasn't sitting around doing nowt). this definitely helped. it was nice to see job applications turning into interviews.

do you have an up to date CV?
have you been for any interview training?
have you been watching The Fairy Jobmother on C4? Hayley Taylor is straight talking and has some good tips.
do you need help with anything? I'm a HR manager and will gladly assist with creating CV's, covering letters, interview techniques etc.

and if you can un/load the dishwasher/washing machine once a day, or cook a meal (casserole with jacket potatoe - 1 pot, straight in the oven), then she'll think you're wonderful

Thanks Liz, yeah my cv is up to date,i've a few things in the pipeline but everything is moving so very slowly,had an interview last week waiting to hear back from it.

[dick turpin]

Good luck rad, sounds like you are a positive person and im sure you do your fair share, Stay positive which i know full well is hard when things seem to move so slowly. have you been tiling on your own for long?

[Rad2474]

About 2 years Dick.

[timeless john]

Well then get off your butt and make the house nice, what's wrong with you?? You'd reather please someone else with free labour but not your wife and your own home?? Good grief...

Now if I'd said that I would be on a red card!

You just follow GRR advice and put all your efforts into finding work.

[user123]

Now if I'd said that I would be on a red card!

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Haha, you never know, John, I might take over from you with the grumpy guts reputation...

[GirlRacerRed]

Thanks Liz, yeah my cv is up to date,i've a few things in the pipeline but everything is moving so very slowly,had an interview last week waiting to hear back from it.

no point sitting around waiting. did you get the interview through an agency or did you go direct to the company?

whichever way around, ring somebody in the morning and start nagging people until they tell you what's going on.

as a recruiter at the moment, i'd rather speak to the candidates that keep in touch with me, take time to come down to the plant to see me, keep me updated with changes to their CV or temporary work they may be doing. one guy I know did all that and waited 18 months for the right job to come up. he's on board now and loving it

[Dan]

well in that case, to get a full time job, you need to be putting in full time hours looking for one. i used to get up at 7.30, shower, get dressed, breakfast, boot the laptop up and be ready at my "desk" for 9am. the job centre made me create a log of all my job hunting activities (so I could prove that I wasn't sitting around doing nowt). this definitely helped. it was nice to see job applications turning into interviews.

do you have an up to date CV?
have you been for any interview training?
have you been watching The Fairy Jobmother on C4? Hayley Taylor is straight talking and has some good tips.
do you need help with anything? I'm a HR manager and will gladly assist with creating CV's, covering letters, interview techniques etc.

and if you can un/load the dishwasher/washing machine once a day, or cook a meal (casserole with jacket potatoe - 1 pot, straight in the oven), then she'll think you're wonderful

no point sitting around waiting. did you get the interview through an agency or did you go direct to the company?

whichever way around, ring somebody in the morning and start nagging people until they tell you what's going on.

as a recruiter at the moment, i'd rather speak to the candidates that keep in touch with me, take time to come down to the plant to see me, keep me updated with changes to their CV or temporary work they may be doing. one guy I know did all that and waited 18 months for the right job to come up. he's on board now and loving it

^^ That's all probably the best advice you'll hear in this thread.

And yeah, that Fairy Jobmother deserves a medal. If only the job centre were actually like that.

[whitebeam]

Could cook her a meal when she comes in from work......

I'll get my coat

[faithhealer]

Girl Racer Red, our own Miss Motivator, feel a sorry now for mr GRR lol

[Daz]

With regards to interviews......

I used to be in sales and these comments were always used in first, second and third interviews. I never held back and only ever got knocked back on one job.

"How do you feel about me?"
"Do you think I will fit in with the team?"
"What is your recruitment process, i.e. timescale, second / third interview?"
There's loads more but the one question that you should always ask at the end of an interview is.......

"Have I got the job / second interview etc.?"

All recruiters like confident and direct employees, it is what stands you out from the crowd and will get you noticed.

Incidentally, I have been consistently busy as a tiler. I believe that it is because I close the deal before I leave the customers house. A simple question like "when do you want me to start?" usually does the job.

Good luck mate .
Stay positive.

[mikebidd]

Dont let it get too ui too much. iv just been thro all this. And everyone on here kept me smiling,

A few trade secrets.
1) agree to do tidying then start about 10 mins before she gets in from work so just as shes walking in your hoovering (ibvousley oblivouse too her walking in) with that god iv been at it all day look on.

2) if you have too do the washing "accidently" break the washing machine you wont be allowed near it ever again.

best off luck too you mate things DO get better

[GirlRacerRed]

Girl Racer Red, our own Miss Motivator, feel a sorry now for mr GRR lol

yeah when he was made redundant last year, he took it all in his stride, didn't show me any of his job hunting... no wonder we almost got divorced